Twin Cities Family Homeschool Conference

I took the last three days off from blogging to attend a homeschool conference with my family! It was such a great experience for everyone! It both challenged and encouraged us in our faith which is exactly what we needed to be more effective for The Body Of Christ. It made me ready to tackle this next school year and helped me to refocus my goals for my children, and myself spiritually. It encouraged me as a wife and helped me to remember those lies satan wants to dangle over me that prevent me from loving my husband as Christ would!

This conference gave me revival in myself, my marriage, and my family and the messages that I heard have changed my life and brought me to a closer understanding and relationship to God. I was so blessed to hear sermons and teachings from S.M Davis, Tom Harmon, Chris Hogan, Paul and Jenny Speed, David Waller, and Gill Bates!

My children made lots of new friends and were able to do skits, crafts, sing, and be challenged in their faith! My oldest son was able to learn emergency responder skills and go canoeing!

If you ever get a chance to attend one of these conferences —do it!! Your family will thank you!! Mine cried when it was over because they didn’t want it to end!!

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This Week’s Goals and The Nasty “P” Word

After reviewing my goals from last week, it is clear to me that I have intimacy issues because I have a hard time telling my family I love them. Which if I could sum this problem all up with one word it would be the nasty “P” word that has always haunted me, PRIDE! It’s a good reality check. I need to be more intentional with showing and telling my family I love them before they are all grown up and gone. I don’t want to have any regrets.

Why would I have pride in this area? Because I could get hurt….. Because maybe they won’t say it back…… Because maybe they don’t feel the same way I do…. Because I’m just making excuses…. It’s pride, it doesn’t need an excuse.

Last weeks goals…..

Personal Daily Goals

  1. Wake up early and have prayer and devotionals with Danny before work.  (x 5 days)
  2. Read She Reads Truth Bible in a Year plan daily.   (x 7 days)
  3. Look up Bible Verses read from She Reads Truth Bible in a Year plan in commentaries for deeper study.  (x3 days)
  4. Pray. Pray. Pray in a.m. Before getting out of bed.  (x 7 days)
  5. Get dressed with shoes and makeup!!   (x 5 days)
  6. Start the day with feet running.  (x 7 days)
  7. Memorize Psalm 52.  (x 0 days, Not at all)
  8. Go over Dan’s goals and expectations for me and the kids and implement them.  (x 2 days)

Family and Marriage Goals

  1. Tell each kid I love them daily. (Failed!)
  2. Hug each kid daily. (Failed!)
  3. Tell Danny I love him daily. (x 7 days)
  4. Show Danny how much I love him. (x1 day, bought more snacks)
  5. Memorize The Sermon On The Mount with kids during the day. (x 4 days)
  6. Bible study in 2 Samuel with kids during the day. (x 5 days)
  7. Character qualities with the kids. (x 5 days)
  8. Prayer list with kids. (Failed!)

Household Goals

  1.  Make meal plan for July. (Failed! Maybe I’ll get to it in August!)
  2. Make grocery list.
  3. Make budget and plan for bills/expenses for next two weeks.
  4. Continue to pack and pray about housing situation! (I prayed but I didn’t pack, again!)

Ministry/Serving Goals

  1. Pray with a stranger. (Failed!)
  2. Help someone in need. (Failed!)
  3. Prayer walk for my community. (Failed!)
  4. Give to others. (Failed!)
  5. Show hospitality. (Failed!)
  6. Encourage a brother or sister in Christ. (Failed!)

This week’s goals (7/05/15 – 7/11/15)

Personal Daily Goals

  1. Wake up early and have prayer and devotionals with Danny before work.
  2. Read She Reads Truth Bible in a Year plan daily.
  3. Look up Bible Verses read from She Reads Truth Bible in a Year plan in commentaries for deeper study.
  4. Pray. Pray. Pray in a.m. Before getting out of bed.
  5. Get dressed with shoes and makeup!!
  6. Start the day with feet running.
  7. Memorize Psalm 52.
  8. Go over Dan’s goals and expectations for me and the kids and implement them.
  9. Find more homeschool affiliates
  10. Start Link Up

Family and Marriage Goals

  1. Tell each kid I love them daily.
  2. Hug each kid daily.
  3. Tell Danny I love him daily.
  4. Show Danny how much I love him.
  5. Memorize The Sermon On The Mount with kids during the day.
  6. Bible study in 2 Samuel with kids during the day.
  7. Character qualities with the kids.
  8. Prayer list with kids.

Household Goals

  1.  Make meal plan for July.
  2. Make grocery list.
  3. Make budget and plan for bills/expenses for next two weeks.
  4. Continue to pack and pray about housing situation!

Ministry/Serving Goals

  1. Pray with a stranger.
  2. Help someone in need.
  3. Prayer walk.
  4. Give to others.
  5. Show hospitality
  6. Encourage a brother or sister in Christ.

For This Week

  1. Take kids to ATI Conference

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Starting My Day With The Seven Sins Paul Feared

Let me just tell you if you choose to start your day out like I did with the seven sins that Paul feared it will get pretty ugly! So proceed with caution!

What are the seven sins Paul feared?

2 Corinthians 12: 20 – For I fear, lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I would, and that I shall be found unto you such as ye would not: lest there be debates, envyings, wraths, strifes, backbitings, whisperings, swellings, tumults.

The Story

Yesterday started out pretty innocently and then snowballed into a big, fat mess!

See my family has a personal conviction to remain accountable with each other about what we see on the Internet. That’s why we have put certain precautions in place to maintain this accountability and keep our eyes and our hearts guarded.

Some of these precautions include:

  • No internet on the phone it’s password protected
  • We have three filters on our computer AFO, WIPS, and Metacert.
  • Oh and we turn our images off while searching the Internet. It’s very easy to do and if you need help on how to do it send me an email! This is a personal conviction because we live in such a sex driven society that seductiveness not holiness tends to be the norm.

My Sin Number One: Wrath

So when my husband called to say he had saw something provocative on his computer at work I was frustrated! I got very angry (or as my faithful King James says “wrathful”).

My Sin Number Two: Debate

My wrath immediately turned to debate as I began to drive my point into the ground with the sole purpose to make me right and him wrong. Oh and I was doing such a good job at it too! I was spewing things out of my mouth left and right about how careless he had been, about how he can’t even follow the rules he sets, and what kind of example of a Christian he is. I was ruthless, cold hearted, and callous and I didn’t care because I was winning the argument.

The more I debated the smugger I became. My words became cockier and cockier. My mouth was way past the point of no return and I was enjoying it because I was winning! Did you catch that? I was sinning and enjoying it, lingering in it because it made me feel good for the moment! That’s a hard thing to admit but it’s true!

My Sin Number Three: Strife

The sin of debate always leads to strife. To be exact, my pride, in wanting to be right and win the fight led to a big debate and that big debate led to strife in my marriage. All because I couldn’t say “apology accepted” after he said I’m sorry.

Pride. It’s ugly and I’ve mentioned before that I struggle with it. Jesus would not of debated with Danny but I did! He would of loved him and forgave him and wrapped his arms around him for confessing his sin but not me and all because of my pride! I wanted to fix with my flesh what God had already worked out in Danny’s spirit!

Strife is that terrible spirit that creates an atmosphere of anger that hangs just below the surface so that you keep fueling the fight. It makes you miserable and wreaks havoc by causing you to bicker and argue!

My Sin Number Four: Backbiting

Once you start down the path of the seven sins that Paul feared you just seem to keep going and going and the situation keeps getting worse and worse!

Next, I started to backbite Danny with the children! See it wasn’t enough that my pride took over and wanted to win the debate. Now my pride wanted not only to win the debate but to have everyone on my side too! Backbiting or tale-bearing is talking about someone in their absence — to bite them behind their back and I was guilty of that. Now you think that all this would be enough to make me stop and come to my senses but it’s not! Because out of my pride I just kept opening my mouth!

My Sin Number Five: Whispering

I got off the phone with Danny and began to talk out loud to myself about how angry I was at him! I was so angry at this point that now I was complaining to myself about the situation and getting angrier and angrier by the second! Each hateful word or thought that I spoke (even to myself at this point because no one else was willing to listen to my foolishness) was causing me to self destruct and slip further and further into this self inflicted chaos!

My Sin Number Six: Swellings

Each time I grumbled to myself I could feel the pride and anger swelling up in me! My pride has caused my actions and words to be puffed up and my responses to be harsh and cruel!

My Sin Number Seven: Tumult

Tumult is confusion and disorder and I had definitely reaped what I had sowed! I had continued to allow my pride and my will to fuel the argument. I had continued to create confusion and disorder in my marriage because I wanted my will to win the argument and not God’s will of humility and forgiveness!


 

I asked Danny for forgiveness last night and he was quick to forgive me and allow God’s love and mercy to show through him! I also asked God to forgive my sins and to help me die to my pride and allow his love, mercy, and forgiveness to flow through me when someone offends me. I prayed for him to help me become less of me and more of him!

Sin is a poison that if left to linger will consume us and take over us! Just one of the sins listed above is enough to sentence me straight to the pits of hell. The wages of sin is death – eternal separation from God, and rightfully so because I had broken the law and deserved the sentence given.

I am so thankful to have a Savior that loved me so much that he sent his only begotten son to die on the cross so that my sins would be forgiven. If I would lay down my pride and come to him and ask forgiveness for my sins so that I would be spared from the punishment, the sentence I deserved- hell!

To paraphrase a quote from our family friend Pastor Mike Hoggard  “If hell was for a thousand years it might be bearable, because there would be an end to the torture. But it’s not! Its forever! Eternity!”

Friend if you don’t know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, I plead with you to cry out to God! Come to him with all your sin and ask forgiveness for breaking God’s Law! Pray and ask Christ into your life so that you can escape from the wrath to come!

Romans 10:13 – For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

 


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The Country, The House,  and The Decision

We here at the Roller household are facing one of our toughest decisions ever. It is a decision that affects our very livelihood and the direction we want to go in raising our seven children still at home.

Last year my husband took a good paying job in a near-by big city. We are not city folks at ALL and would rather live a quieter, simpler life that allows our main focus to be on our faith, family, and ministry. So when we found a house for rent in a near-by small town of 8,000 we were excited! It was the small town life we have always dreamed of!! Over the course of the past year we have slowly made a life for ourselves here in the community and built many relationships. Life couldn’t of been better, until we received a letter in the mail that our landlord didn’t want to renew our lease again!

Instantly, we were stunned but recovered quickly and started calling two other places in town that were for rent. We slowly discovered through our calls to rentals that with the size of our family we needed a five bedroom due to fire safety ordinances. But there were no five bedrooms….In fact there were no other homes for rent AT ALL in our rural community.

See OUR plans were to stay in this rental a year and save as much money as we could for a fixer upper! But it seems like Gods plans may be alittle different than ours.

With so many thoughts swirling around in my mind all I can do is pray for guidance.

Here are my thoughts:

  • We wanted to be debt free, will it ever happen?
  • The cost of living in WI is higher than back home in MO/IL. So with that being said it costs more to buy a home.
  • Since we live in a rural area there is a special rural development loan with interest rates between 1-3% if you purchase in the country.
  • If we get a lower interest rate our mortgage payments may be cheaper than our rent payment.
  • If we rent we need a five bedroom. So far all the five bedrooms are closer to the city and cost way out of my budget. (Silly fire safety laws!) (Just kidding)
  • If we have to rent will we have to compromise and move to the city?
  • Can I survive the city? I like calm and quiet! My house is loud and exciting enough for me!!
  • I always thought we would move back home. Enough said.
  • Can I live without my little Walmart?  I’m being serious there is nobody at the Black Friday sales in the country! You can get all the deals no problem!! These are things a girl has got to consider.
  • Oh did I mention we have to figure it out by the end of August or will be homeless.
  • Plus just the thought of packing for nine people again even with the kids help exhausts me!!!

I will keep you updated as God moves. Please feel free to share your thoughts! I’m always willing for good advice and pray for us!

Whoo that feels good to get off my chest!! All this stress is making me crave chocolate 💜! And all the women said “amen”!!


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Porn, Cellphones And The Internet: What Every Parent Should Know

Our generation is facing a huge obstacle when it comes to technology and it is destroying our children. This obstacle is keeping our children safe from the dangers of pornography and it is everywhere. Its on the television, in magazines, and on the internet.

Most parents set no parameters when it comes to the television, or internet. Most children have televisions in their rooms with cable access and computers in their rooms with internet. The world is so sex crazed that it no longer is a question of if our children will be exposed to pornography but when. 

If you don’t believe me take a look at these statistics I recently found online:

  • 74% of children have access to the Internet at home with no filters.
  • 98% of children have access to the Internet outside the home.
  • 50% of 4-5 year olds know how to access the internet through tablets.
  • 80% of children age 8 and up have access to the internet on their cellphones.
  • Sex and sexual content is available on tv 24 hrs a day
  • Everytime you get on the internet you are five clicks away from seeing something sexual.
  • Fashion has become “sexy” pushing the limits to what’s acceptable to wear. We act like we have to wear what the fashion world tells us. This is trickling down to our children.

I shouldn’t have to explain to you the dangers of your child being exposed to pornography. These dangers will last a lifetime affecting their self esteem, marriage, and views of what normal sex should be.

What Can We Do As Parents?

  1. Don’t allow internet in your home without a filter. My family uses AFO and we love it. Do your research and find the filter that is the right fit for you.
  2. You may need to rethink cable tv. Is it worth it? There are other alternatives to entertainment like renting dvds from the library so that you have more control over what they are watching.
  3. Disable the internet from their phones. Our children don’t need 24 hour access to the internet.
  4. Do not allow your children to operate any online media, including NetFlix.
  5. Do not allow your child to go over to other peoples houses that do not maintain the same tv and internet safeguards.
  6. Explain to them the danger of pornography.

Scriptures to meditate on:

2 Peter 2:14 Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:

1 John 2:16-17 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

Psalm 66:11  Thou broughtest us into the net; thou laidst affliction upon our loins. (Think  internet.)

2 Timothy 3:1-5 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

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