Self: The Ultimate Sacrifice To Raising A Godly Family

I once heard a story about two women visiting together on the front porch. One a older mother whose small children were quietly playing at her feet, and the other a young newlywed. After observing the small children playing at hers friends feet she said, “I would give my life for children like that.”

The older mother smiled and wisely said”That’s exactly what it takes.”

Ever since I first heard that story, it’s meaning spoke so loudly to me about the sacrifice it takes to raise children for Gods glory! Biblical motherhood means sacrifice, selfless love, faithful dedication, and a generational mindset. 

I am not here to serve myself… I am not here to be put on a pedestal…I am not here merely for my own needs and wants…

 I am here to to help build a kingdom with my husband–Gods kingdom and that starts with my children. I am here to build a culture–God’s culture and that starts with my children!

However, there is a price to building that kingdom and it starts with self–myself to be exact! If you are not ready to pay that price, no amount of encouragement, no self help book, no tv interview, NO NOTHING can give you that joy of motherhood. The cost is high and it is the same cost that it takes to be a follower of Christ. Daily I am to die to myself and serve my family. Daily I must give up present satisfaction for eternal rewards. I must think about how each move I make, things I let in my home, routines, traditions will effect future generations of my family. I must carefully consider what I am sowing into to them lest I reap it in my children, or my grandchildren. 

  • Am I sowing  laziness  or diligence?
  • Am I teaching them to check out or endure?
  • Am I teaching them to be idle or busy?
  • Am I sowing entertainment or bible studies?
  • Am I helping them to grow in Christ or just get through the day?
  • Am I allowing them to see my walk with the Lord or hiding my faith?

Let’s face it Motherhood is a tough job. Daily I invest in the lives of my family who may never fully appreciate or realize all that I do for them…all that I give up…there may never be a thank you or acknowledgement of all it takes on my part to keep it all afloat. But with the grace of God I will press on towards the mark for the price of the high calling of Jesus Christ. I will not give up. I will fight the good fight and I will raise Godly children for Him!

Scriptures To Reflect On:

Galatians 2:20 – I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

Luke 9:23 – And he said to [them] all, If any [man] will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.

Galatians 5:24 – And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

Mark 8:35 – For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.

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2016 New Year New Focus And Our Family Meeting

First thing New Years Morning after our family Bible study my husband declared a family meeting! He wanted to start 2016 off on the right track and for our family that meant slowing down, putting our focus on God first and then planning our family goals!

The New Year is the perfect time to reflect on the previous year and decide what worked and what didn’t for yourself and your family. My husband took this time to rework our family chore chart and decide who would be getting different jobs, who needed to be challenged more, and who needed to show more discipline.

It is such a great feeling when he takes charge and shares with us honestly about his vision and goals for us. I can’t help but to feel excited and safe knowing that he cares genuinely about the direction our family is heading and has taken the time to slow down, and see the big picture! To make sure that we get on track and stay on track! I left the family meeting feeling encouraged and excited about a fresh approach to doing things!

Did you set any new goals for your family for 2016? I would love to hear your stories!

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2016 Focus Word Love And Loving Being Created In His Image

Seven years ago in our tiny, little bedroom of our first house I began to read the whole Bible for the first time in my life. It was at my husbands prompting and it forever changed my life. The power of God’s living word reached down deep into my soul and gave me the peace, love, answers, and security I had been desperately longing far. The knowledge from God’s word began the slow process of sanctifying and renewing me!

As I began to read about the strange woman in the Book Of Probverbs my heart overfilled with grief. I could see myself in her description. No I had never been a prostitute but I had been guilty of finding my self worth and self esteem by how many men noticed my body. I dressed to be noticed…I dressed to be seen…I was stuck in this endless cycle of dressing in low cut tops, tight tops, tight jeans, and little shorts, all to make myself feel good but it never worked…not deep down where anyone could see…it never satisfied me deep down….because I needed Jesus.

I began to feel ashamed of my worldy, fleshly behavior, causing men to sin and not even thinking twice about it. Just moving on and going on through life with no reality to the consequences. I was figuratively wiping my mouth to the evil I had done just like the Book of Probverbs.I had been turning to Hollywood and the fashion industry to dictate my dress…and I’m a Christian! These are the only clothes out there I would reason with myself….Everybody does it I would tell myself…Its too hard to find modest clothing I told myself…..but I had already started to be changed by the truth of Gods Word and I couldn’t ignore it. The Lord began to help me see things in a generational view instead of a right now in this very moment point of view. I began to see how my dressing like the world would have an influence on my children, and my grandchildrens dress. I began to see the significance of this decision which would seem tiny and insignificant to others from an eternity point of view. Instead of being overwhelmed and stressed and scared I CHOSE TO LOVE BEING CREATED IN HIS IMAGE. TO HIM I WAS ALREADY PERFECT JUST THE WAY I AM..JUST THE WAY HE CREATED ME!

You see CREATED IN HIS IMAGE is not tight clothing, look at me clothing, trendy styles, thigh high boots with tight jeans to draw your attention to your thighs, legs, and butt, yoga pant, tank tops etc. Jesus did not dress in the latest fashion. He did not wear tight jeans that accentuated is body. He didn’t spend $100’s of dollars on the latest fashion trends. He didn’t look to the world for dress

.Once I realized all this I was able to find peace and rest in the fact that I was CREATED IN HIS IMAGE and that was sufficient for me. I could let go of the standards and the ways of the world and have peace…HIS peace. Since then I have chosen to make a purity statement instead of fashion statement!

Have you chosen to make a purity statement instead of a fashion statement? I would love to hear your testimony of how God has worked in your life in this area!


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My One Word For 2016: Love

This new year 2016 I am committed to focusing more on LOVE!! Love for my Heavenly Father, love for my husband, love for children, love for my neighbor, love for my community, love for the sinner, love for the drug addict, love for the alcoholic love for the imprisoned, love for the hopeless, love for the beaten down, love for the unloved….LOVE.

Love that is unconditional, non judging, patient, never ceasing, ever flowing! Love that will uplift, praise, encourage, and edify my brothers and sisters in Christ. Love that will transform my husband and family as Christ love has done for me!

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 King James Version (KJV)

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

Pray for me that I let the Lords love reshape my life, focus, and relationships.

What is your focus for 2016? Can I pray and encourage you in your walk with Christ? Drop me a comment or an email and let me know how I can serve you!

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How Do You Want To Be Remembered By Others This Year? A Question That Brought Earth Shattering Reality To My Life!

I have been spending alot of time goal planning and setting lately. I have been carefully self evaluating my life, my actions, my attitude, and my responses to others and thinking about the way others see me. When I began to think about how I wanted to be remembered by others this year I stopped dead in my tracks. I began to realize that I needed to change some of my actions NOW…ASAP and beginning living now the way I want to be remembered by others especially my husband and children.

I don’t want to be remembered as the tired, grouchy, overwhelmed mom of many BUT as a vibrant, fun, joyful mom others enjoy being around!

Here is the full list of how I want to be remembered:

  • my love for Jesus
  • my love for my husband
  • my love for my children
  • my love for my community
  • my love for the lost
  • kind
  • compassionate
  • servants heart
  • encouraging
  • words of praise
  • words of thankfulness
  • smiling
  • cheerful
  • fun
  • intentional
  • hard working
  • enduring
  • hugging
  • kissing
  • a good wife
  • a good mother
  • a good daughter
  • a good sister
  • a Good daughter to my Heavenly King

Wouldn’t it be amazing to be remembered for these things? Focusing on this has really helped me to cut through all the noise in my life and realize what really matters most from an eternity perspective! Pray for me as I begin to seek the Lord to help me change in these areas and to use it for His Glory this coming year!

So now I challenge you to ask yourself the say question. How do you want to be remembered by others this year? share with me how you want to be remembered and let me pray for you!



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